It also does help if you ask only one question at a time. Some people put two questions into one question. so you wouldnt get an accurate answer. And just in case please surround yourself with protection before you use your pendulum. I know its hard to imaging when you are working on connecting with your loved ones that only they would come through but lower energies can and will come through and that would also make it hard to get accurate answers. Try to keep your thoughts neutral while you are asking questions so you dont influence the pendulum. If you want an answer to be yes so bad and you keep thinking please say yes while the pendulum is swinging it will give you a yes response even if the answer should have been a no. I have been putting off contacting my mom through the pendulum because I am scared she wont be able to come through. I think its great you have the confidence to try to connect with your parents. I would love to hear how you try to connect